Jason Mitchell Kahn is an acclaimed wedding planner featured in Vogue, New York Times, and PEOPLE, Kahn has been listed as one of the Best Wedding Planners of the Year in Brides magazine, hailed as “Broadway’s Wedding Planner” by Playbill, and even planned a wedding for Mariah Carey’s nephew. In his upcoming book, We Do: An Inclusive Guide When a Traditional Wedding Won’t Cut It (summer 2025), Kahn shares his wisdom, humor, and heartfelt experiences to help you create the wedding of your dreams—regardless of who you are or who you love. He took a moment out of his busy schedule to have a conversation with us.
Q) What inspired you to put out your newest book ) We Do: An Inclusive Guide When a Traditional Wedding Won’t Cut It?
It has been over ten years since I published my first wedding guide, and ever since then I’ve been planning weddings non stop for all sorts of couples. After a decade of doing that kind of work, I felt I had a lot more to say.
Q) You put out a Getting Groomed: The Ultimate Wedding Planner for Gay Grooms in 2013, what are the biggest changes you have seen around LGBTQ+ weddings?
Back then it felt like LGBTQ+ weddings were really trying to fit into the established mold of heteronormative weddings. It was a new concept. As they grew in regularity, it seems to me as if LGBTQ+ couples felt a better sense of freedom to make these celebrations more authentically them.
Q) We are celebrating the 10 year anniversary of marriage equality. Do you think it is still important for people to be promoting the idea that everyone deserves the right to marry?
Yes. 100%. Given the current climate, no law that was passed is guaranteed to stay in tact.
Q) When the marriage equality act passed, were you contracted to do any weddings immediately?
Yes! Business really started to boom.
Q) What is the best way to make people feel included in a ceremony that was originally designed for just straight people?
Throw out traditions and customs that don’t resonate; give them a spin or invent new ones. There is no mandate any where that says in order to make a marriage legally binding that two people must walk down an aisle, share vows or exchange rings. These are traditions. Many of them are still relevant to LGBTQ+ people, but they should be executed inclusively.
Q) What are the most untraditional places you have put on a wedding?
An underground speak easy, a carousel and a pizza restaurant all come to mind.
Q) What was the first wedding you ever planned?
For my sister to her wife. It will always be one of my favorites!
Q) If people want more information about you or your book, where should they go?
Final four questions –we ask everybody.
Q) When the zombies take over the world where will you be?
Probably in my closet debating which tuxedo fits the occasion
Q ) What is your favorite Fandom (could be sports, pop culture, favorite director or author)
Bette Midler
Q) What piece of art, be it in the form of music, a book, a film or picture, do you think people must experience before they die?
A Broadway show that transports you to another world when the lights go down and then remains something you can’t stop thinking about for days after
Q) Give one fact that most people would not believe about you?
I don’t like wedding cake.
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